The most important quality I look for is when I tell her about a problem, she comes back with some type of advice, any advice. And that she shows some sort of tact when I need to be told bluntly that I'm acting stupid, or when to take a consolatory tone with me. A female once told me that she thinks "love is a charge" (as opposed to an obligation or a predisposition or a sickness). I pick her.

And a deal-breaker? How about crack?

the most important quality i look for is honesty. if i can trust a person, we can get through (almost) anything.
i have several dealbreakers, but one thing i absolutely CAN NOT tolerate is jealousy. when i get even an inkling of possessiveness, i run for the hills, and don't look back.

I agree with di-my-e; honesty is the most important quality. The deal breaker is lack of honesty.

I look for a lot of traits I don't yet possess, but that I hope to possess when I'm an adult.
Although I'm not materialistic (deal-breaker!) or shallow (deal-breaker #2!), I'm not intelligent, proactive and… uh… unannoying. I only want to be in a serious relationship when I can fairly expect these traits. I am really patient with unstable people or antisocial people, though… not like I want "perfection."

I look for sanity and decisiveness in a woman. Nothing worse than a bugged out chick who can't make up her damn mind(believe me, I know).

Deal breakers? I got tons and not enough text space.

My biggest deal breaker would have to be someone who doesn't know when to STFU. I love when we can be at home and we don't have to say a word to each other but can still be relaxed and enjoy each others company.

In a man, I will list 2 things:

Personality: Family-Oriented (Family is extremely important to me & he must have a good relationship w/ his family & want children, dogs, etc.)

Physically: Height (I don't want an Amazon but I do prefer taller, stronger man-I'm 5'7 so it can get to be difficult when I wear heels.

I don't ask for much, I'm not even that big on "looks" or "wallet size", as long as he has a college education from an accredited university. I like to think that I'm a pretty simple woman.

Most important: good friends. It'll get you through a lot of rough times.

Deal breakers: stupid, bigot, crappy voice, anti-choice, fug, bad in bed. I know the height stuff is so shallow, but c'mon, we all have our own things. It's a matter of what's attractive to you and you shouldn't be with someone you're not physically attracted to.

Most important: That he is a man who has character and integrity.

Dealbreaker: That he lives in a house of lies.

I guy has to be able make me laugh and he has to be outgoing. My #1 deal breaker would be if he cheats and if he is (this may sound funny)a Dallas Cowboy fan eh. GO SKINS!!!!!

My fist instinct for the most important quality was to say honesty, but honesty without tact can be brutal. Given that, I'd have to go with sincerity. I think the deal breaker would have to be dishonesty.

@bwilstyle - Charge = Obligation. The two words mean the same thing, so…

That she loves God with all of her heart and follows his commandments. That way, even if she is mad at me, I don't have to worry. She's not loving, honest, and forgiving because of anything I did.

The top quality I look for is intelligence. You don't have to have an amazing career but you at least have to be able to have some deep conversations and make me think.

A deal breaker is more than 1 babymother and more than 1 child. I still want my own and the odds of a man affording to take care of 3 or 4 children properly (financially and emotionally)are slim in this economy. Plus no one is ever gonna be calling me their baby mother far less their 2nd or 3rd baby mother!

after dating an alcoholic and, memorably, a heroin addict- substance abuse is a huge dealbreaker. i like a guy who i can knock back a couple of beers with/sip whiskey on the porch with, but serious substance abuse is not my style.

He has to be an Egalitarian and open minded.

Sense of humor is my big must-have. Not that she has to be a clown or anything like that, she just needs to not take herself too seriously and prefer laughing over not laughing. Intelligence is my other big one, although in my opinion the two practically go hand in hand. I also like for a woman to be independent-minded and unique in her interests and outlook, and to be open to new experiences (music, films, food, philosophies, anything…basically a constant willingness to branch out). She should be able to introduce me to new stuff, too.

Aside from a general lack of the aforementioned qualities, jealousy is my zero-tolerance deal-breaker. Clinginess, basically the flip-side of independent-mindedness, is another.

I might get blasted for being shallow, but I also don't think a relationship has any potential if she's boring in bed.

Dealmaker: Intelligence and sense of humor. More specifically, a sense of humor that "gets" my weird, irreverent, slightly bawdy sense of humor. Compassion and openness are also at the top, but if we have nothing to talk and laugh about, we'll never get around to them.

Dealbreaker: Possessiveness. Jealousy and suspicion are always rolled up inside, like a 3-for-1 deal. I couldn't deal with a man who couldn't trust me, or got aggressive when I spoke to other men. If he can never trust a woman, it means he feels weak as a man. Also, arrogance. Again, people with superiority complexes are typically weak and threatened inside.

Dealmaker: A deep love of music. Please dont come at me with no clue of who Earth, Wind, And Fire is! And educated, in some form!

Dealbreaker: Cheating, Lying, Drama, or Clingy as crap….Boo, I am not for you!

Oh, and they have to be kooky and audacious! Hair removal is a deal-breaker. And, please, no flip-flops! Any other footwear acceptable. Different because they like to be themselves, not different just to be different, like 90% of hipsters. That's just as bad as being the same just to be the same.